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If sometimes you had said, are you ok, then perhaps we would have become friends.

If sometimes you said, goodnight, then perhaps I would have trusted you.

If sometimes you would have said, I am here, I would not have left.

If you would have not avoided meeting halfway, you would have known me.

If you would have answered questions, or explained, I would have understood.

But "if" is not steady ground to build on, want is not a foundation, and wishes are not action. So better to walk away from fires that burn one's heart instead of gently warming it.